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The Profile of an Emotional Eater

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The Profile of an Emotional Eater

Everyone who eats for emotional reasons is unique but we can learn something from the things Emotional Eaters share in common. That's why we did a survey of 25,000 people who identified themselves as Emotional Eaters and asked them some very pointed questions. This is the largest survey in the literature on the subject of Emotional Eating, and reveals something significant.

A very clear profile emerged from this survey. The Emotional Eater shares some of the same positive reasons that all people have when they want to lose weight: to be more attractive, fit into clothes better, to be healthy, and to have more energy. However, the Emotional Eater wants much more to happen when they lose weight. They want their life to be better; not just their body.

Emotional Eaters said that losing weight would help with their self-esteem, would have them stop criticizing themselves, would stop food from being a conflict in their life, and would help them control their moodiness, depression, or anxiety. Emotional Eaters may not realize what their answers indicate. They hope that losing weight will make them more complete psychologically. However, diets fail them because the solution happens in reverse. They have to become more psychologically complete in order to lose weight. The Emotional Eater must establish a new relationship to food.

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The survey revealed this flip side of Emotional Eating. Emotional Eaters are afraid to let food go. Their answers exposed that while they wanted to lose weight, an equally big part of them wanted to hold on to food because it was the only way to stop feeling empty inside, because it made them feel better about their regrets and unfulfilled potential, and because it provided the perfect quick escape when the stress of life became too much. They saw food as a symbolic protector, loved the feeling that junk food gave them, and didn't want anybody to try to stop them from eating as much as they wanted. This is why the Emotional Eater yo-yo diets; they're afraid to give up the comfort of food (it has nothing to do with gluttony or lack of willpower).

These survey results are totally consistent with what we have seen in individuals over the years. Emotional Eating makes it impossible to lose weight and keep it off despite good intentions. Food has become so much more than a tasty treat. It has become a cure-all; something with magical properties that makes people feel great. It takes hard work to give up the magic and have to learn more effective ways to handle the tension of life. The Emotional Eater must learn to let food go psychologically and then they can lose weight.


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8 Comments In the order they were posted.

debbie said...

I hate myself so much and daily think of myself in a thin way but continue to eat. I can not focus on dieting at all. And I am so depressed over it but then continue to eat.

Betty said...

I am sitting here thinking about chocolate chip cookie dough, enough in a package for 24 cookies. I don't tell anyone I sometimes have this binge maybe four times a year. I am so sad that nothing in my life gives me a jolt the way sugar, fat and chocolate, taken together, do.

aycicek said...

I was a thin girl, after 30 I became a fat woman. I have a job and a family but I just want freedom for myself to walk or exercise I don't have time working 8a.m. 5p.m. how can the thinking patterns be changed easily?

BILL said...

How true. How do you break the vicious cycle? The relationship with your ever present closest companion? I'm a lifelong EE.

Anonymous said...

fat-thin-fat-thin i am so tired.... i want to eat like a normal person but i really don't know what to do...

Lorraine said...

I'm tired of being a person most people view as being less worthy of love, respect, admiration.....basically feeling like I'm less of a human being because I'm fat. I'm tired of being angry, ashamed, embaressed, rejected,.........

renee said...

Thank you for giving me hope.....I had given up and thought that I was stuck in this body and in this powerless place. I now feel empowered to move forth, to get help, and to reclaim my life because I had become my own worst enemy.....I ate to feel better and to numb the pain, only to despise the person that got me to that place with every thoughtless morsel of food that she placed in her mouth.....I no longer hate her....I emphathize with her and lover her because I am her.

Mia said...

It gives me a sense of joy to know that I don't have to do this alone, that there are people out there that really share my pain, not at all the misery loves company take on it, just so elated that I have someone to relate to me on this serious but so looked over issue in my life, I have been dealing with this for so long and I am trully just altogether tired, I want my life back, thanx for the encouraging words all of you give.